The bow-tie is a scary thing.
As silly as it may seem, I remember being scared to death of putting on a bowtie and going out into the world for the first time. This, of course, is related to several points that may seem insignificant. The first of which is the most obvious; I was deathly frightened to look like a dick. As far as I’m concerned, there is a simple formula. Looking like a dick = dressing ridiculous + not being able to own it. There’s a great phrase I’ve always loved. It’s very simple, stating “It works if you work it” which I believe to be completely true. There is nothing that can’t be added appropriately (or, at times, completely inappropriately) to a situation or outfit to make it fit perfectly in place. Men wearing women’s clothes? Yuck. Unless you’re Steven Tyler, then it would almost be awkward any other way. Big, dandy panama hats? Yuck. But there’s that 85 year old man smoking a cigar over there that looks like it was invented for him. Anything can be worn in the appropriate context and, less-so than looking like an idiot, I was really worried about not being able to pull it off correctly, given my limited experience.
Miss South Carolina had my vote... and my heart.
Well, hello there.
I just got back from Vegas (and boy are my.. nm), and we had an absolute blast. My friend James came with me and we basically burned ourselves to the ground with typical Vegas pursuits (read: eating, drinking, gambling, and fully-clothed clubs until wee hours of the morning).
We arrived on Friday and I was raring to go: Dinner with Greg. Annabelle and Lindsay arrive. James arrives. Everyone meet up. Gambling and drinking all night.
Good morning lads and lasses!
There are two things you all know about me by now;
1) I am speaking at Johnny Soporno’s Successfulness workshop in Las Vegas Next week (Click here to visit The Worthy Playboy Institute.)
2) I hate salesy emails filled with stupid promises to make you into a superhuman with a 15″ inch penis that women fall down in front of, tearing off their clothes in a fit of sexual obsession.
That being said, I’m going to tell you a few specifics about the event with as little schmooze as possible.
My friend James and I demonstrating a 21st century playboy skill: Selfies.
Luckily for me (or to my chagrin, depending on whether we’re discussing competition or not), there’s not much information on the art of the playboy out on the internet. For most enthusiasts, I believe, it probably seems like an unattainable goal, which it really isn’t.
If you follow www.rooshv.com (like the friend that posted this link on my wall does), you may be familiar with his article on “How to Become an International Playboy.” Of course, it wasn’t long before this article was shared with me and I think, for the most part, it’s actually quite a neat little summary. It details Roosh’s ideas on become a sort of “Playboy-lite,” being as it would be extremely difficult to fully embrace the playboy lifestyle completely. In my workshops and private training, I teach the specifics of the gentleman mentality and the finer point of developing a personality and lifestyle the supports the idea of being a complete playboy and adding playboy elements to your life, which gets quite a bit further than this overview does (as it’s obviously meant just as an overview for a diet version of a playboy lifestyle), but I did find a few things about this article I’d like to comment on.
For the most part, I do agree with the majority of this piece and think it will be of benefit for you to read, but I’ve embedded (in blue bold) a few points to expand or clarify my points.
“A Playboy does not talk about money. He knows this leads to either bragging or complaining and a Playboy does neither.”
Step 1) Shush.
The collection of men in the world today do a profound amount of both bragging and complaining the majority of the time they spend comporting themselves publicwise. I’m no stranger to either of those (especially the complaining bit – hangovers bring it out in me), but it’s something I’m both working towards changing in myself and others. A particularly common place to find both of these is when discussing money.
As many of you know, last year I tripped it down ALLLLLL the way from LA to beautiful Las Vegas to head to Johnny Soporno’s Successfulness Workshop and I’m really stoked to do it again this year between January 14th – 20th.
I’ll be speaking for the first time as Art Of The Playboy and I’m extremely excited to be bringing some new and exciting things to the table. This marks my debut as an independent entity so I can talk about ANYTHING I want and don’t necessarily have to adhere to certain company guidelines (heh). This promises to be a very excellent event with some amazing speakers. Let me give you the line up of confirmed coaches (as there are always drop-ins that make the event even more of a jam-packed feast of knowledge.
The concept of change is something that is tremendously important in the PUA community. Coincidentally, because of how difficult it is for some people to change, it’s one of the most polluting elements in the community, as well. Often the concept of changing (or “evolution”) actually overshadows the changes that are taking place.
Let me explain: When most guys first get into pickup, they discover some fundamental flaws with a lot of things that they take for granted. Let’s use the concept of style for this demonstration, though, it could be anything: body language, grooming, vocal tonality, etc.
“A Playboy treats people the way he would like to be treated.”
Step 1) Calibrate
Step 2) Do.
What we know as the Golden Rule (a term from 1670) dates back to 1300 B.C. and is one of the longest lasting ethical codes of morality that exist today.
And it still exists for a reason.
After we had a large discussion about how to open a bottle of wine without a corkscrew yesterday, I rummaged around the apartment to find a way to do it with the materials provided. Here’s my solution to an all too common problem:
“A Playboy never compares one woman to another.”
Step 1) Shut your mouth.
Step 2) Open your eyes.
Step 3) Appreciate.
“Paying compliments to a lady can be a dangerous activity. Especially when comparing her to another lady” says Max Raabe during his concert in New York with the Palast Orchester, and rightly so.